Building Bonds
During the month of February, we're told to focus on romantic love, and encouraged to buy flowers, chocolates, and candy hearts to express our fondness for loved ones. And while these are fun -- especially if you like candy -- there may be a better way to communicate your affections. Consider devoting time this month to the emotional intelligence competency of building bonds.
The ability to build bonds with others is not some magical quality which only a few individuals are gifted to possess. It is something we all can develop. Those who are good at building bonds tap into their extensive networks of connections to share ideas, offer collaboration, and gain support when needed. They're able to build rapport easily and earn the trust of others. Not only do they have a close-knit web of personal friends, but they also get along with colleagues at work and are not afraid to be open and authentic to build friendships in the workplace. They're respectful of others and value people and perspectives which are different than their own.
If you are struggling with building bonds with others, there are practices you can begin to help you improve your skills. On the other hand, you may be quite adept at connecting with others -- if so, well done! But there's always room for improvement. These same practices can strengthen and deepen those relationships.
Here are a few things to try:
Which of these practices will you start with? Pick one and, if possible, spend 10 minutes in the morning thinking about how you might incorporate it into your day. Journal about it, and set some intentions. Who will you try this with? When? How? Where? What benefit will you glean if you do? As with any new habit, these practices may feel awkward or uncomfortable at first. That's OK. If you get discouraged, remind yourself that building bonds with others is worth the effort, and your skills can grow.
February 2023